How to Spiritually Overcome Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure despite all your hard work and achievements? It's a struggle many of us face, and in this heartfelt "Butterfly Talk" episode of Monique's Tarot, we dive into spiritually overcoming those feelings of inadequacy. 

Chapters

• 0:28 Spiritually Overcoming Failure
• 15:18 Embracing Growth Through Spiritual Resilience

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:28

Hello, butterflies, hello, hello. Welcome to Monique's Tarot. How are you, butterflies? I hope all is going well on your end.

Speaker 1: 0:37

I'm so excited to kick off the series the first butterfly talk and bringing you all the conscious, the topics that really stay with you and resonate with you in between those lunar cycles, and also the feelings and thoughts that resonate across the collective. This is such a joyous time that we're in a healing time that we're in especially following the new moon and cancer. But before we get into today's topic, let's just ground ourselves. So let's just burn a bit of Palo Santo. Perhaps you're a sage person, perhaps there's a different herb or natural path that you bring into your ceremony. Bring that energy in and let's just clear out that energy that no longer serves us and also allow in those messages from the spiritual guides to just open up the space. So, as mentioned, for those of you that are dedicated butterflies and followers, I love bringing the readings to you all. I love doing that, but I also wanted to do something that was just a little bit more intimate. There's a lot that's on your minds. I know that personally from the messages that you send and also from the reading requests that you send to me. I appreciate that so much that you all entrust me with that, and I wanted to bring a format where we could just conversate, we could just talk. So if you're following the podcast, specifically on Spotify or even on Apple, feel free to leave a note within the comments. What are those things that are on your mind? How is this topic resonating with you in the podcast? And I also want to bring more of those topics to you all to just talk through how we can spiritually overcome those things in the day to day. So be sure to leave a comment below and let me know how you feel about the messages of today.

Speaker 1: 2:39

Now, what we're talking about today that's been on my heart is how to spiritually overcome failure. So I have to be honest, butterflies like I've been feeling like I've been failing lately. I just feel like I've been failing, which my friends and family tell me isn't true. They're like you're not failing. There's no way you're failing. You have so many good things on, but I just haven't felt like I've been able to meet my full potential. There are some outcomes that I just want to happen and I need to happen. So it's been really frustrating to be in a season where I feel like I have to wait and things aren't happening when I need them to happen. And so over the last two weeks I've really been working to get back to my core, and the first thing in spiritually overcoming failure is to step outside of yourself. So I needed to make sure that I connected with friends and I connected with family and said hey, I'm not doing. Ok, like I'm not doing well, I'm not in the best headspace. Okay, like I'm not doing well, I'm not in the best headspace. And that in itself letting other people know that you're not in the headspace that allows other spirits to come in and connect with you, that allows that external ancestral energy to start taking power and to start moving through other people to assist you.

Speaker 1: 4:03

It's so easy to think that you can do everything on your own, but you're not meant to do this alone and your spirit is not meant to do this alone, which is why I refer to the collective. We have a collective energy that we all are tapped into, and especially within failure. Failure is a very egodriven emotion. You feel like you're a failure because you are not doing enough, but the minute that you begin to bring in, we to tap into that collective consciousness, you realize that you're not alone. There's probably someone else out there that you know that's gone through this. Maybe it's someone that's a mentor, maybe it's someone that you look up to. Maybe it's someone that's even younger than you that's gone through things. We all have repeating patterns and as we move through these different spiritual grids, with friendships, with locations, there are different people that we connect with that can help us break out of these cycles. So I want to encourage you, as that first step, to step outside of yourself and admit to someone else that you're feeling less than that you're feeling like you're a failure and see how you feel. Just that alone will help you.

Speaker 1: 5:21

The other thing that I started to forget is who I was. It's like when was I strong? Like when was I the strongest in life? And so I thought about, like okay, when I was a teenager, there were no major bills, no major responsibilities, and maybe some of you are mothers and fathers and uncles and aunts and you've adopted, or you have people in community that you look after, or maybe even just trying to make sure that you're caring for the people, that you just care about, making sure that they're good your friends, your chosen family. In all of these cases that takes energy and it can be easy to forget where you sit within that.

Speaker 1: 6:03

So the second point is really pacing yourself. Are you pacing the output that you're putting out there? Because if you put so much out where you're not recovering, it can easily feel like you're a failure because you're just doing too much. You're a failure because you're just doing too much. Spiritually, if we look at the chakras in the body, so your solar plexus is connected to your willpower. Failure is an ego-driven spiritual emotion that we have on ourselves. So you want to think how can I build in more confidence so I'm not leaning on the ego of failure? Have you connected with your solar plexus? Have you moved the center of your body? Have you been able to allow yourself to have some rhythm in the center of your body so that you can start to have that go down to your core, center of your body, so that you can start to have that go down to your core? Are you starting to allow yourself to move so that you're not so stuck within that ego of failure?

Speaker 1: 7:10

It's very important to allow this movement to guide your pace, because as you start to guide your pace with movement, you start to feel more grounded and not needing so much external validation, realizing that you are bigger than this one moment. There's an expansive world beyond this moment and that requires again tapping into that collective energy and allowing yourself to move into that energy. So remind yourself of who you are and when you felt strong, and journal those moments down. I want you to ask yourself when did you feel strong, what were those brightest times in your life and what did it feel like? Start to create that visual for yourself. Start to create that memory and bring it into the present, but also creating a new foundation that's more mature, that has the aid you need and so that you can start to be guided toward where you're going Spiritually. If we look at the purpose of the north node, it's your guiding point in life and the south Node is your past. So if we were to think about the North Node as something that's pushing us toward our goals, pushing us toward where we are meant to be, you have to have that balance mentally, internally, because so many times when we feel like we're failing, we're focused on the South Node, we're focused on those things of the past that did not work, but that South Node guide is to teach us those lessons so that, as we're moving toward our North Node, we have more maturity and we have more insight into what we are doing.

Speaker 1: 8:55

For those of you that follow Monique's Tarot, we have five realms that we focus on Elevation of spirit, healing, work and business endeavors, personal life and also unexpected surprises. What I want you to do is really think about, if you look at all of those realms, what areas are you not performing as well as you'd like to performing as well as you'd like to? That's very different from the idea of failing. Maybe you're just tired. Maybe you want your finances to be stronger. Maybe you haven't had the energy to go to the gym as much. Maybe your expectations are too high, where you're putting yourself in positions mentally where you can never achieve that goal because you're stuck in perfection. It's important to really ask yourself how you're truly performing so that you can think about the emotions that come with it. Give yourself a second to pause and I want you to think about the emotions with each realm. Which ones are realistic, which ones are based in your purpose and with those thoughts of failure, which ones are higher expectations than need to be set right now Write all of those down and allow yourself to just release.

Speaker 1: 10:25

There's a certain present energy that's needed to overcome failure as well, and when we focus in the present there's ease to it. There's a lot of feminine energy in the present. Masculine energy a lot of times is about the do so. Masculine energy a lot of times is about the do the overcome that kind of Mars planet energy, the competition going after being out in that competitiveness, that Aries energy. But I want you to think about the ease that you could bring into your life. How can you bring in more of that Taurus energy, that mothering energy, that Cancerian energy, that flowing energy? How can you allow yourself to bring in some of that Pisces duality energy, to see all sides, to go deep but to allow yourself to come to the surface?

Speaker 1: 11:15

At times, like I said, I have been feeling failure lately. I've been feeling like I've been failing. I've been letting my ego get the best of me. I have not been allowing my spirit to really speak through what I'm doing and that has crammed my decisions. That's put me into a panic when I really need to be in a space of openness. And to do that you need to really develop a practice. A practice, first, of acceptance of what the current situation is. So, again, that feminine energy, of being present in the now. And then also, I want you to think about a space of building within your home. So maybe you already have a sacred ritual space, maybe you have an altar that you come to each day.

Speaker 1: 12:07

But what are those things that you could do each night, and also in the morning, to bring in grounding For myself? In the evenings, it's burning incense within my bedroom, so allowing myself to smell, so I can breathe deeper when I go to sleep, to start to really lower that anxiety and open up my nervous system with breath. In the morning, it's allowing myself to look at those dream catchers that I have, catching light, seeing the crystals sparkling in the light, and allowing myself to focus on what I'm grateful for. You may have a unique practice that fits you, whatever it is. Find that spiritual ritual so you can step outside of yourself, so that you can step outside of the ego and connect with the energy of the collective.

Speaker 1: 13:02

Let's do two oracle pulls, oracle pulls. There's so much good grounding energy that, again, is coming from that new moon in Cancer. So if you have not listened to that reading. Please go back and listen or watch the full reading on YouTube. There's so much good guided energy, but we're just going to pull two oracles here Calling in messages from the spiritual guides of overcoming failure, calling in messages from the spiritual guides of overcoming failure.

Speaker 1: 13:52

Okay, so I'm seeing here gratitude. It says find just one thing that you feel grateful for right now and let that gratitude pour through your body. It's like a healing balm, like the warmth of the sun, beautiful and so fitting. Gratitude, gratitude. Let's just pull one more Calling in messages from the spiritual guides for overcoming failure, spiritually overcoming failure.

Speaker 1: 14:36

And then we have Cosmic Light Council. The number up top here is 12, which translates to fruit three, which is all about freedom, all about travel, all about just getting out there and exploring a bit. There's definitely that energy across the collective and it says you are being cleared, balanced and stabilized through 12 vibrational dimensions of light. And even if you do go through a situation where, let's say, it did not work out, the outcome was not what you expected, it didn't pan out the way you wanted to, that's still expansive energy in it and it's about finding those lessons that you can continue to take with you from the south node.

Speaker 1: 15:18

As you move toward that north node energy and building that solar plexus, let me know below in the comments, specifically on the podcast, and also, for those of you that are listening in via YouTube, let me know in the comments how this message resonates with you. How are you dealing with failure? What are you working to overcome right now? I want you to declare that victory. I want you to declare that energy of overcoming that ego in your life and allowing that solar plexus and that expansive energy to connect beyond this moment and connect beyond yourself to the power of just redefining and re-understanding a deeper version of your spirit and what it's truly capable of. With that Butterflies. Thank you all so much and speak soon. Bye.