How to Make Life Work for You

Feel like "Life isn't working?" We've all been there in our journey. Believe in your vision and recognize the cyclical nature of energy. From setting a disciplined schedule to surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals, in this episode of Butterfly Talk, we discuss meaningful ways to spiritually reconnect with your life.

Chapters

• 0:29 How to Get Life to Work
• 17:08 Nurturing Your Vision and Beliefs
• 26:38 Embracing Change With Butterflies

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:29

Hello, butterflies, hello, hello, welcome to Monique's Tarot. How are you, butterflies? I hope all is going well on your end as we enter into this new week. To get things started here, let's just burn a bit of Palo Santo. Get things started here. Let's just burn a bit of Palo Santo, welcoming in those messages from the spiritual guides and also clearing out that energy that no longer serves us. As always, butterflies, it is such an honor to bring these spiritually guided messages to you all each and every week. Thank you all for those of you that are subscribed via the Monique's Tarot newsletter right at moniquesterotcom. Thank you for those of you that support via Substack with your financial contributions, and also you can support via the podcast at buzzsproutmoniquesterotcom and you can contribute with $3, $5. All of that is right within the show notes. So thank you to all of you that really contribute and say thank you for bringing these messages. That's truly, truly appreciated.

Speaker 1: 1:39

So we are doing our second butterfly talk. We are doing our second butterfly talk Now. For those of you that have not listened to the first butterfly talk, which was overcoming failure, highly recommend going back to that. These are more casual. So there's so many things in between readings that happen just in life, and I wanted to have a format where we could really just talk about that, have more conversation, a format where we could really just talk about that, have more conversation. I will do a full, a few pools throughout just to bring in some connections and bring in some spiritual guidance, but I'm just going to talk to you about different topics in between some of the moon readings, and this is a great way for us to find balance together and have a deeper connection as community.

Speaker 1: 2:26

So what I want to talk to you about today is the topic of how to get life to work for you. I was talking with some friends and there's been a lot going on. For so many people it feels like there's this energy where if you go up to somebody and you ask them like hey, how are you doing, it's kind of like you know, I'm okay, I'm all right. It's not really like that deep, like hey, I'm good, it's like it's okay and it's bringing this energy of okay, life feels like it's just not working. If you've ever caught yourself saying that like life is just not working, it's not working, or want to happen or the outcome that you want, it's just not working. And we've all been there. I've been there and it really started to spiritually connect with me and wanting to understand more of like, how do you get life to work for you? We so many spiritual tools, but sometimes it's like, where do you start? You can feel so overwhelmed in your day. So we're going to talk about a few things. I want to talk about the surroundings around you, within your space, within your home. I also want to talk about, like, your vision. I want to talk about discipline and I want to talk about how the spirit comes in with all of that. So get things started here.

Speaker 1: 3:50

Before we jump into this topic of how to get life to work for you, I want to just pull a butterfly affirmation here to ground ourselves ourselves today, colin and Butterfly affirmations for how to get life to work for you, how to get life to work for you Okay, butterflies, okay, butterflies. So what we have here is a black butterfly with four spots imagine two spots on each of the wings and you have this purple kind of amethyst flower that this black butterfly is sitting on. It's almost like there's a vision of being able to see through the darkness here, see through the light that's coming through here, but also there's a certain illumination, almost like if these holes were clear, these clear spots on this black butterfly. It's almost like they could hang, like they could support. There's a very supportive energy that's felt with these spots on this butterfly here and the affirmation reads I am strong enough to face every issue in my life with courage and trust. I'm strong enough to face every issue in my life with courage and trust. Life with courage and trust. How timely is that butterflies? I mean, we're talking about how to get life to work for you, and there's a spiritual message right away of courage. I'm strong enough to face every issue in my life with courage and trust. So let's talk about your surroundings. Let's talk about your surroundings.

Speaker 1: 5:49

When we think about things not working, often we're focused on the very immediate surroundings around us. So for some of you, that might be your work life, your career life. Maybe there's a job that you're going for, that position, you need that new contract that you need the team members that you need, and you feel like it's not working. For some of you, it might be your relationships. Perhaps you've been single for some time and you feel like you aren't finding that compatible relationship or you feel like for the relationship you have right now, whether you're in a single relationship or maybe a multi-partnered relationship, it's a little bit too complex. This could even be directly related to your health, like how are you staying on top of your food practices? There are so many layers to what could not be working in your life, and so the immediate surroundings around you have a big effect on your mindset.

Speaker 1: 6:44

Let's start with your home. So your home is your place of peace, and when we think about things not working, we're often wanting control. We want to control the outcome, we want to control how things are, and if we can control it, we feel like it's working. But there's this energy that comes with disruption that's meant to shift and to move us into new territory. So, as much as we might feel like it's not working for us, that disruption is actually shifting the way we practice. So in thinking about your home, how is your home set up? Is your home cultivating an energy of peace? Is your home cultivating energy of anger? Is your home cultivating an energy of connection?

Speaker 1: 7:35

If you are looking for deeper connection in your life right now, within your family let's say you have kids, let's say you have a partner your home needs to be set up so that everyone can have their space, they can have their time, they can have their energy to just be within themselves. But you also need places like a table where everyone can eat. You need a backyard or maybe a community space that people can go out to and kind of play, and need a place to bathe. You need a place to be able to unfold into your rest with your bed. All of these surroundings allow you to come back into yourself. So the first thing is to think about your immediate space.

Speaker 1: 8:26

I also want you to think about your surroundings as clues into how you can get things working. So, for instance, I was actually going through a lot of old magazines. I was traveling and I was reading this magazine and there are these little tear outs within the magazine, like you know, those smell goods where you could tear out the perfume, rub it on your body and it smells really nice. And I got back home and I realized there were so many more magazines that I hadn't torn out all of these smell goods. So I started to do that and tear all of those out and it made me realize like I have so many magazines, like I'm a big magazine collector and I love the art of writing. I also have tons of books around my space. There's books on shelves, there's books under the TV, there's books, there's just books all over the place. And it was a good reminder that I love writing.

Speaker 1: 9:23

I love everything about writing and that process of being able to look at your immediate surroundings and say, if I'm looking to get something to work for me, what in my environment is showing me what I love? And as you go towards those things that you love, you start to have more synergy with your spirit. You start to go in a direction of okay, this feels easy. You're not so much going against the grain. If you are looking to shift into a new career and you're wanting life to work for you, starting with those surroundings is a great start because it gives you a clue into what you need to do. You can also ask people hey, what can you tell me about myself? What are those things that I'm not seeing about myself? And with that you're starting to get that outside spiritual counsel. You're out, starting to have those outside souls really talk to you and connect with you and give you that insight so that they can show you what you have ease with.

Speaker 1: 10:29

When we want life to work for us, we're often looking for ease and not friction. But again, remember that you need that darkness with the light, and the darkness in this case can sometimes be the friction that you feel like is withholding you. Now let's go to the other side of things. Let's say you've had a lot of failures. In those cases, it's important to make sure that you're taking time to think about your discipline. So, within your discipline, there's your schedule, there's your rest, your communication and also how you're connecting with people. We have so many tools at our disposal right now and sometimes we can overload ourselves with life and we put too many things in one day and it can instantly feel like a failure.

Speaker 1: 11:20

I want you to think about what tools do you have, whether that's your notebooks, your calendar, whatever it is. You want to make sure that your schedule is consistent for the results that you want in your life. It doesn't mean that you discount rest, but it does mean that you need to factor it in with some of your goals, because, as you look at your discipline, if your discipline is lacking in consistency, then you won't be able to see the fruit of your dreams. There needs to be a constant give and take of. You're giving something out and then you're resting. You're giving something out and then you're resting. You're allowing your spirit to replenish and you're also allowing your spirit to go into action. I want you also to think about your communication within your discipline. Are you sharing these goals with other people? Are you allowing yourself to have that outside reflection?

Speaker 1: 12:29

If you're someone who lives alone or you're separated from your family, it's hard of you that are in different locations to really find that community and connect with that community so that you can have that mirror of who you are and that mirror of how you actually operate. If you're someone who's maybe more of a hermit, it's fine to take that time for yourself, but you want to make sure that you're doing so with good reflection, because that'll allow life to work for you through other people. And it's so important to allow other people to connect with you, especially when you're looking to get to that next level or if you're looking just to shift out of the energy that you have right now. There are so many times when I've been in ruts and I've tried to do things on my own, and sometimes the bravest thing that you can do is ask for help from someone else, really asking and saying, hey, I need help, I need something outside of myself. I need to know more than I know now.

Speaker 1: 13:34

It's humbling in doing that, but it also is giving your spirit this chance to expand. It's giving your spirit this chance to really come into some newness and to step back and say what can I grow in, what can I become more disciplined in and how can I allow others to help me so that I can go on this journey with support oracles calling in light oracles for how to get life to work for you, calling in light oracles of how to get life to work for you, to work for you. Yeah, we were just talking about that. So I'm seeing here self-awareness. It has the number six up top and it's one hand given into another. There's one hand that's actually coming out of the frame of a galaxy and it says let go of your egoic attachments, your evolution comes with release. I'll read that again Let go of your egoic attachments, your evolution comes with release. I'll read that again Let go of your egoic attachments, your evolution comes with release.

Speaker 1: 14:59

The ego plays such a big part into our growth. The ego is there to give us that boost to do things right. It gives us that boost to say I can do this better than anyone else, or I am more than capable of doing this, or I can overcome this obstacle. But at the same time, when you're self-aware to that point of help and support, you know your limitations. So part of getting life to work for you is knowing with your spiritual guides, your ancestors, calling out to them to understand what you need and what you don't know about your spirit yet, allowing them to speak through those dreams, allowing them to speak to that unconscious, so that you're fully connected throughout your day as you're awake. Along those lines, I also want to talk to you all about your vision.

Speaker 1: 16:14

So, getting life to work for you, the first thing you want to think about is is your vision enlightened Meaning? Are you clear on where you want to go? And this is often what catches people up, because when you are feeling like things just aren't working, nothing is going your way, the vision can become so cloudy. And that's again why it's so important to first start with centering your space, to cultivate what you need, whether it's care, whether it's nurturing, whether it's healing, whether it's recovery, whether it's good conversation, whether it's recovery, whether it's good conversation. You want to be able to have a space of healing around you, but your vision is what you see, what you believe and also what you're connected to. So let's think about what you're seeing for a moment.

Speaker 1: 17:08

If you feel like you're in a space of you can't see where you want to go, I want you to pause. I want you to put your hand over your heart and I want you to say to yourself when was I clearest on my vision? At what point in my life was I clearest on my vision? At what point in my life was I clearest on my vision? How did I feel? Who was I with? What surrounded me? What were my habits? What were the things in the last few weeks that have clouded my judgment? Is my judgment being clouded by other people? Is it being clouded by myself? Is it being clouded by too high of expectations? I really want you to get clear on what your vision is being clouded by, so that you can start to move those things out of the way.

Speaker 1: 18:16

Also, vision is connected to belief. So if you don't believe your vision, if you're doing something right now and you don't feel fully connected to it, no one else is going to feel connected to it. So you want to be connected to things you fully believe in. There are times when you need to do that role, you need to do that work, you need to take care of your basics. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the thing that you really want to do. If you believe it, then your spirit will start to make the steps to cultivate surroundings, cultivate the people, to acknowledge that dream that the Spirit is calling you to. I also want you to be patient with this, because vision is about connection and there are some times where it takes months, years to make that full connection. But you want to make sure that, with your vision, you are taking those small steps to get there. So this could be, again with your discipline, thinking about a schedule that you can do just a little bit at a time to get life to start to work for you. This could be making sure you are resting so that you are hearing everything you need to start to work for you. This could be making sure you are resting so that you are hearing everything you need to start to make those steps. This could also be about making sure that you have that togetherness with other like-minded people that share that dream.

Speaker 1: 19:44

Getting life to work for you is about getting into that momentum, getting into that cycle of things where things are just continuous, where, if you don't have it, if you don't have that energy, for some reason you can find it in other people. If you can't find those words to really cultivate to that family member or that child or that relationship, giving yourself the pause to say I don't have to have all of the answers, because this is about someone else cycling back into me as well, being able to say you know what, if things aren't working out financially as much as I'd like them to? Let me give myself an opportunity to really think about what I want, think about that joy inside of me and start to cycle into that energy of practice, of visioning it, of seeing it, of believing it and putting it into action. It's cyclical. The energy of getting life to work for you is about being in a cycle that continues to give in and give out, as much as you are giving out to other people, especially if you feel like you're someone who keeps giving, giving, giving and life is not working for you right now. Know that you are in that cycle. You might be at the top of the cycle where you're in the give, but it's going to return right back. Imagine if you are pouring into a wheel of water and think about, like those old wheels, where they would have buckets, and so if you're pouring into the top of that wheel bucket and there's several buckets below, you have to keep pouring and pouring and pouring and eventually those buckets will come back up to you as they hit the river below.

Speaker 1: 21:32

Now you might say with this Monique, I need rest, I don't have any more to give. I hear you, I've been there. I understand that completely. So again, this is where you want to make sure that you are surrounding yourself with people that know your limits. You can't give from an empty well, but I just want to speak to those people who feel like I have been giving so much and it's not coming back. Yes, you need to have boundaries. You can't give it all, but you want to make sure that you are acknowledging the potential of connection so that you can continue to receive that connection back. Cloning messages for how to get life to work for you. Cloning messages for how to get life to work for you.

Speaker 1: 22:34

I'm feeling called to pull a few here. So the first one that we have here is compassion. It says be gentle with yourself. Forgiveness will set you free. See the light in yourself and others. Yes, we were just talking about that again. Compassion says be gentle with yourself. Forgiveness will set you free. See the light in yourself and others. Yeah, there's just this energy of if life is not working, then it must mean that you've done something wrong. And that's just not the case. It's just not the case. It's just not the case. It's about making sure that you forgive yourself first for being too hard on yourself, for being too judgmental on yourself. It's easy to see yourself in a negative light. It's easy to stay in that place of negativity, but know you are capable of so much, know there's still so much there for you. And also, this is the time to ask for help if you want life to work for you, to get outside of yourself and to spiritually allow yourself to be open to what's coming in.

Speaker 1: 23:44

There are a few visual, powerful, powerful visual tools that I want to give you all. The first one is writing down your best outcome. I want you to write down your best outcome. I want you to stick it on somewhere you can see each and every day. Maybe this is on your mirror, maybe this is in your car, maybe this is above your bed. Wherever it is, I want it to be a place that you go to each and every day and you sit down. Maybe it's your desk, but it gives you that visual cue. What this is doing for your spirit is it's allowing you to unconsciously see that vision. It's simple as just writing down the word of what you want. I want you to, every day, unconsciously look at this, allow your eyes to just glaze over a bit, and as you're looking at this, I want you to think about where everything is working in your favor, what this comes to be, and allow it to embed your unconscious in a way where your actions start to move into that. Your surroundings start to cultivate that relationship, your vision starts to allow yourself to actually believe it. Your unconscious vision and your discipline comes into a certain softness. This is how you start to get life to work for you.

Speaker 1: 25:21

Let's pull one more butterflies before we close calling and messages from the spiritual guides how to get life to work for you, and I'm seeing here leadership. We have a beautiful, beautiful unicorn here, um, this unicorn here is standing tall and a green borealis, beautiful starlight kind of scenery here, and it says leadership. It says step into your leadership, share your message, inspire and empower others. Know that you have everything inside of you, butterflies, to get life to work for you, but know that you are constantly in relationship with your spiritual teams, constantly in relationship with your ancestors and constantly in relationship with the evolving you. It is all in you, but allow yourself to hear these things as they come to you. So again here. It says leadership. Step into your leadership, share your message, inspire and empower others With that.

Speaker 1: 26:38

Butterflies. That is all I'm being called to read today. I hope you all enjoyed this butterfly talk. Let me know how this message has resonated with you. I'd love to hear how all of you are getting life to work for you and how things are shifting. If you feel like things aren't working right now, how are you getting things to work for you? I'd love to hear. Until next time, butterflies Speak soon Bye. Until next time, butterflies speak soon bye.